The Best Advice to Give Yourself

Well, I know it's been a while since I been on here, but I had some personal problems to tend to. I will be back and forth to share any knowledge that I can give to all that reads. So until next time, here's something that you can think about. Have you ever been out with a person that you know that they are not the way you actually met them? Why do people act different than the way you first encounter? Out of everything you have encountered with the other person, there was something that drew you to them in the first place and that is to be yourself. There is no reason to put on an act to impress your partner. They already had/have an interest in you in the first place. Don't change yourself into something that you are not. That's when you will be all by your lonesome and always asking yourself, "Why don't people like me?" That is a situation that I truly believe you don't want to be in. Be true to yourself and it's almost guarantee that you will have more than you bargain.

This is Pathetic!!

As you all know, what I do on here is try to give some kind of positive incentive on dating and anything that can help you on making a great first impression. This story that I have to tell you pretty much just disgust me as a man and it shows the thought process of these "boys" have. It took me a while to actually talk about this cause it just made me so upset that we as men can't even do the so called "right thing" when it comes to a woman. Here's the story that I want to share. Now after this, if you have read all the other posts that I have done, you should see where I'm going with it. I know this girl who was getting ready to go out with her boyfriend on Valentine's day. She got all geared up and was ready for an exciting night. Her boyfriend came over to get her and of course, he was not appropriately dressed. I mean pants sagging past his butt, oversized shirt and a dew rag on his head. So they left and i didn't hear from her until the next day. Would you believe that his idea of celebrating Valentine's day was a night at Sonic? What kind of mess is that? If you was any kind of "man", how come you could take her to a decent restaurant or even a Chinese buffet? I mean, c'mon man!!! Geez, I don't know what was going on inside his head. A move like that showed me that he has no respect for his own woman and if he's not careful, "Jody" will come in from the back and sneak his woman away. This is what I'm talking about as far as having respect for your woman. If all she is to you is a quick meal, then you don't need to be with her. Man, this burns me up. Don't let me find out you did something like that with your woman fellas. You will be single next year. Count on it!!!!!

To Answer or not to Answer? That is the question

I wanna ask you all a quick question. Do you think that it's appropriate on any person's behalf to answer your phone while on a date whether it be a text or a call? Don't you think that something like that takes the attention off your date? What do you think they will think about you if you answer your it? Maybe your text or phone call is more important than them? I would think that your focus would be on them instead of a dumb phonecall or text. Whoever it is can wait until your date is over and then speak to them. Don't be rude by answering your phone. It shows you don't care about what's going on and could care less. With an attitude like that, you won't go on many dates in life.

The "Speech" Game

I got a real headbanger for you. What is so hard in pronouncing your words correctly? I mean, really people!!! Do you think that it's attractive for a person to say "dis" or "dem" or "truuf" or anything of that nature? I think that if you would take the time and say words correctly and properly, you may just get the person that you have your eyes on. Words mean a lot and don't skimp on them. Act like a person instead of a hooligan,thug or from the "projects." You might be taken seriously then. I'm just saying.....

Pick a color!!!

I know that there are a lot of guys that sees this and I wonder if they are in the same boat as me. Ladies, my question to you is why do you have all colors of the rainbow in your hair thinking you look good? Now mind you, there are some females that can pull it off but most of you out there can't do it. I don't care if you see "Keisha" or "TaWanna" with bright blue or bright red hair and it looks good on them. That does not mean that it will look good on you. You may not have to face or body to make it look good. So yes I'm saying......PICK A COLOR!!! and make sure you look good with it. Don't listen to your "girlfriends" all the time. Mostly what they say to you is not true. Only thing you are doing is making them look better than what they originally are. Stay true to yourself and believe in yourself and you will be fine.

Don't Cover it up, Clean it up!!!!

I had a thought that happened to me back in the day and I just have a feeling that it happens today. Ladies and Gentlemen, have you ever been on a date to where the other person still has an offensive odor? How does that make you feel? In the situation that I had, it really made me think that that person does not care about how they smell or take care of themselves. I can't stress this enough but hygiene is very important when you are in the presence of another person. So fellas, get in that shower and wash from head to toe. Brut does not work anymore. And ladies, your best perfume does not take away that smell that imminates from your "meow meow." Clean it up real good so it can "purrrrrrr." It's always the little things that matters and if you take care of it, you will see how far it will take you.

You DON'T have Swag!!!

Ok, I wanna know what is this thing called "swag" and what ever it is, do you think you have it? I mean, do you have to put a name on what you are and how you act? It's fine to be confident, but not cocky. You should not have to put a name on you or how you act. If you come off relaxed and comfortable in your own skin, then you will have no problem getting the interest in the person you want/desire. Mainly what I'm saying is to be yourself cause everyone else is taken. I really do believe that any person would like you to be you instead of trying to be a "baller" or act like you got "swag." Best advice I can give you is this......JUST BE YOURSELF!!!!!

The First Date

Who's decision is it to make when it come to the first date? Does the man take over and call the shots or does the woman? In my opinion, I would make it that the woman make the first call. It's the simple fact that you would want her to feel comfortable as possible. And also it's lets her know that her thoughts are appreciated. If a man takes charge on this, it may make the lady think about you in a different way and not want to go out with you again. Then again, it is always customary for the man to take the reigns on the situation. I always let the woman know that her thoughts are precious to me and I will always ask what she wants to do. Take that to heart men, it's good "preaching" right there, lol.

Binaca, gum or mints?

One that I can't stand is that for a person to think that they have "game" and all they are is a bunch of talk. What makes is worse is when they talk, your nostril hairs get singed. C'mon people (and yes ladies, I'm talking to you too), make sure the breath is tight. Carry that Binaca or gum or mints to make sure that you have that freshness you need in that time of need. You don't want to be labeled "dragon breath" do you? Try to do whatever it takes to make the first meeting the best one there is.

Don't brag on yourself

You know, I listen very carefully to what has been said to a woman and what gets me the most is when some men want to brag on what they have and what they can do for the woman. Fellas, this may be a shock to you, but there is no need to brag on what you can do for her. If everything that I had put up on here is followed, then you don't need to brag on what you got, what you can do, and what you offer. Your actions will speak more than you words. I'm going to be real straight with this. There is NO reason for you to come out your mouth with, "Baby, I can make you scream with delight when I'm done with you." or some other nonsense that will get them in your bed. I really don't think that a woman wants to hear that from you and the only thing that it does is make you look stupid in saying something it. If you are a MAN, then think like one. Stop thinking like a boy cause those are they are the only ones that will say some dumb mess. So you have a choice. Either think like a man or think like a boy. The question is......which one are you?